| What to do in order to succeed |
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1. First of, you need to register with our site and upload a few pictures of yourself. Make sure these are high-quality pictures as they will give the first impression about you. You can read more about uploading good photos HERE.
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2. Take the initiative – women appreciate confidence and energy in men, especially if they are looking for a reliable partner. Writing letters is a very important part of getting to know someone – it’s great if you manage to write about 40-50 of them before deciding whether this person is suitable for you. You can read more about writing to a Russian woman for the first time HERE.
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3. Play the field – there is nothing wrong with writing to several women at once. Give full scope to your imagination and don’t be afraid to open up – this way you can count on a sincere and stable relationship with the woman who will be interested in you. Some relationships may not work out well – but you will always have someone else to communicate with. Learn more about compatibility HERE.
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4. Move on to the next stage – do not procrastinate and keep writing letters if you have been communicating for a long time. Many Russian women consider that a sign of your weakness and shyness – they may think the relationship is never going to become anything more than just exchanging letters. When you feel you are ready to talk in person – ask for her phone number.
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5. If the woman you have been communicating with has kids – make sure you ask meaningful questions about them. It’s also great if you feel comfortable talking about serious things – such as family values, love, bringing up kids etc.
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6. If after writing and talking on the phone you want to continue the relationship, and every time you hear her voice your heart thumps – don’t lose a moment. You can travel to Russia and meet the woman you like in person. It’s not necessary to stay at her place – there are plenty of hotels, and it could just be the most romantic time for you two. If your relationship develops into something more serious and deep – you have achieved your goal.
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7. After meeting the woman you have been communicating with in person do not wait long till offering her to meet again (maybe in your country) or proposing.
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| Anti - scam program |
Scammers are not welcomed on this site. We have developed our own unique anti-scam program that helps us track scammers and prevent them from accessing any information available on this site. We have our own scammer list that is daily updated – all that to make sure our visitors, who have serious intentions of finding their special someone and creating a family, can get acquainted with other people without being bothered.
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| 5 steps towards successful online communication |
1. Clearly define what you expect from your future Russian bride. |
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It’s important to decide what you expect from your future bride. You need to define your priorities and choose according to certain criteria. Think whether you are ready to make peace with some traits of her character or they are more likely to ruin your relationship in the end. Ask yourself questions – such as would you like her to have a certain job? Should she speak your language fluently? Can she have children of her own?
Does appearance matter? Is there something that is absolutely unacceptable in the woman you are trying to find? Finally ask yourself whether your demands are realistic enough – otherwise you are running the risk of never finding a woman that could make you happy.
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2. Think what she may be expecting from you |
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It’s a good idea to picture the woman you would like to meet and imagine how she would behave and what she would say in certain situations. Think about where she lives, what she does to earn her living, and most importantly – what she is looking for in a man. Do you think you are ready to offer her something she would like to have in exchange for her love and trust? Some men seem to think that bringing a woman to the country of their residency is enough to start a serious relationship – and certainly there are some women for whom this is the ultimate goal of getting acquainted with a foreigner, but you don’t really want to be that man. If you think you may not exactly fit the requirements of the woman you pictured consider going back to step one and redefining your own requirements.
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3. Create an image of yourself that you could stick to |
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When communicating with Russian women on the site, even though you may see some of their pictures, there are still many things that are left to the imagination. Before you start writing letters and calling some women you are interested in think about your own image – i.e. how you would like them to see you. Are you energetic, initiative and self-confident, or romantic, charming and calm? Would you rather spend an evening watching some chick flick with her or do you prefer activities like skiing or cycling together? Just make sure you do not get carried away – this is just to add to your image and let the girl see you for what you really are, not to invent non-existent qualities you do not possess. Remember that once you meet in person, your excessive eloquence in describing yourself and trying to be someone you are not may result in a major disappointment. |
4. Act instead of waiting around |
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With thousands and thousands of profiles uploaded by Russian women looking for a man, waiting for someone to contact you doesn’t make too much sense. The database of any dating site is constantly growing – offering more opportunities for you. If you notice a girl you like – do not hesitate to send her a postcard or do something as simple as wink at her – you may be the first guy who was brave enough to give her some sign of attention, and this is something women always appreciate. The more women you attempt to contact – the higher your chances. The worst thing that can happen to you is you do not get a reply – so keep trying until you succeed. Also don’t be afraid to ask questions you think are important and always make sure you listen carefully. If you managed to get her phone number – this is a very significant step, so prepare for the conversation to make a good impression. |
5. Always keep a stiff upper lip. |
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One of the most important things to keep in mind when you register with any dating site is: online services of this kind can not guarantee a relationship with a supermodel who would instantly fall in love with you and will start planning your future years ahead. Online dating agencies have the only goal – to provide their clients with a wider choice of people of the opposite sex. Looking for a partner – especially if you are going to get married and create a family – is not easy; it takes time, effort and diligence – but it’s totally worth it.
At some point you may find yourself wondering if all your attempts are doomed to failure and you will never succeed in finding that special someone. This is when you need to reconsider some of the methods you are using and maybe review your requirements – they may be too high, or you are not being active enough, waiting for your destiny to find you. No relationship comes gift-wrapped – you have to put a lot of effort into it to make it work. Don’t get disappointed and remember the old saying: «He that seeks shall find».
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| Beware: a scammer |
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1. The first thing that should alert you is a GREAT picture posted on the site. These days almost anyone can upload a picture – so if you think this is too good to be true the chances are it really is.
2. Another move scammers often practice is trying to establish a contact with the man using a private e-mail address to communicate outside the site.
3. The next stage is writing letters to each other.
4. One thing that can be a sign of a scammer is that the girls may not agree to give you her phone number always making up excuses. The most typical ones are «I don’t have a phone», «I enjoy talking to you online, why ruin our perfect communication» and some others.
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5. Sometimes scammers give themselves away by confessing love too soon trying to keep the man interested. Surely there is love at first sight, but there is no such thing as «love at the second letter».
6. One of the final steps of the scammer is to siphon money from you using whatever methods she can. When things start to get serious and you feel like you want to meet the woman you have been talking to all this time in person she makes the next move closing in on you. Usually this is a story about one of her friends who received an invitation to a foreign country and got to spend some time with the man she met via one of the dating sites. The scammer will use any leverage she thinks she has – these people happen to be excellent psychologists and they can often manipulate the victims to make them offer money.
7. The most important thing you need to remember is – getting a visa (a US or a Schengen visa) is a very complicated process and it’s not just about money. So if the woman you recently met says she would like to spend some time with you but needs money to buy tickets – you need to be very careful. There are many documents required to visit someone abroad if you are travelling from Russia – so if the girl says all she needs for the trip is money… she is probably telling the truth – once she gets the money you will never hear from her again.
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